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By: The Mouthy Housewives » Autistic or Not: How to have an armchair chitchat

The Mouthy Housewives » Autistic or Not: How to have an armchair chitchat — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 12:01:15 +0000

[...] From your friend’s perspective (and certainly mine), humor may be the only thing keeping her from eating paper, sniffing glue, and making homely pottery in a convalescence [...]

By: LK

LK — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 14:56:00 +0000

The Heir and the Spare?

OMG, I almost peed myself laughing at that one.

I’m sorry that the Heir SUCKS sometimes, and the only consolation that I have to offer is that I have a strong-willed child in the house that throws these kinds of ragers too, although we haven’t gotten into the three-hour tantrums yet.

I hope you had a bourbon or something equally strong

By: Heather

Heather — Mon, 31 Dec 2007 19:40:00 +0000

that is a scene from my own childhood! i remember having hours-long tantrums at age 7, 8… 9 (sorry) yelling and screaming, feeling frightened by my own loss of control.

you couldn’t reason with me in that state. i was utterly unreasonable. my fear was that i would be unloved for being such a “bad kid” but i couldn’t keep the emotions inside.

my mom let me vent and i don’t know if there was much else to do. but i had to clean up all my messes (including fixing broken curtain rods from tearing the things off)… and now i’m pretty handy around the house.

more importantly, i DID outgrow those tantrums. i don’t think i had a meltdown like that after age 10 (not terribly reassuring i’m sure, but somethin) and we figured out that protein was a mighty protector. low blood sugar made me homicidal, so my mom learned to snack me up with at least a glass of milk every 2 or 3 hours. that helped.

but i’ve always been an intense person. intensely happy. intensely curious. and the crappy stuff, too. but i don’t have anger-management issues. i don’t hit my own kids. i’ve never flown off the handle at work or done any of those things that a parent fears their intense child may grow up to do.

instead, i’m an artist & an activist and have learned to harness my powers for the forces of good instead of evil. huzzah!

i only ever blew up at home, where i was safe. where i knew they’d still love me in the morning. where i could be my ugly self and my mom would vent her distress in her journals (a few F words there, too back in the day!) but still find me beautiful. we all test that unconditional love thing in our own way…

i don’t think there are answers… it’s hard. it’s hard being an intense 7 year old, too. think you’re doing exactly what ya can.

ps: we have a heavy bag in the basement. it’s not for my intense son. it’s for his occasionally super fucking frustrated mom!

By: Jennie

Jennie — Fri, 15 Jun 2007 18:22:00 +0000

Thank you Heather for solving the book eating mystery- I swear you added to that post since I last read it!!! Or maybe DS distracted me while I was reading…

By: Wendy

Wendy — Thu, 14 Jun 2007 02:00:00 +0000

Oh man..my son is a HSC and he is 3 and some days I want to crawl under a rock and stay there until the year 2030. It gets worse?!?!?! Fuck! I sooooooooo identify with what you were saying about not being able to reach him when they ‘go to that place’ – there is nothing I can do to bring him back at that point – it’s the most frustrating thing I have ever dealt with in my life!

By: Lene

Lene — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 12:39:00 +0000

Ok, your post made me want to laugh but not really. Humor gets me through rough times too.

I have no words of advice, but I hope that you do find some answers or help on this.

BTW, I find saying FUCK very liberating. I say it often when my kids are asleep because I can’t say it when they are awake.

Love the pics!

By: moosh in indy.

moosh in indy. — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 02:46:00 +0000

You can come crash in the pissed off mommy clubhouse. I’ve been here for days.
P.S. you hot.

By: Shauna

Shauna — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 00:48:00 +0000

I’m so sorry you had a fucking awful day. Days like that fucking suck. And all you want to do is scream your fuckin’ head off.

By: Lawyer Mama

Lawyer Mama — Tue, 12 Jun 2007 20:34:00 +0000

That sounds so frustrating. And I thought it was supposed to get easier after toddlerhood. Nobody told me!

By: Cate

Cate — Tue, 12 Jun 2007 17:46:00 +0000

I am sorry you have to deal with this, but glad that you can laugh a little…it’s the only way to get through shit like this.

BTW, if you find a solution to this situation, please let me know. I believe I am seeing my future with my Zander in this post…and I’m scared…so very scared….

All together now…F-U-C-K!