Comments on: How do you say “Torture Fun for the Whole Family!” in French? http://queenofshakeshake.com/2009/07/02/how-do-you-say-%e2%80%9ctorture-fun-in-french/ Thu, 11 Mar 2010 01:52:17 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Krista http://queenofshakeshake.com/2009/07/02/how-do-you-say-%e2%80%9ctorture-fun-in-french/comment-page-1/#comment-12354 Krista Thu, 09 Jul 2009 04:48:06 +0000 http://queenofshakeshake.com/?p=1808#comment-12354 What you said about him being bored and then talking with the middle schooler made me think... is there any way you can have him skip a grade? That would get him with new kids and possibly help him not be bored. If they say he's not up to it, I bet he would be up to the challenge and probably able to catch up with no problems. Otherwise, I think I agree with Susan. I hope you have some other school options around. Good luck, and enjoy your summer! What you said about him being bored and then talking with the middle schooler made me think… is there any way you can have him skip a grade? That would get him with new kids and possibly help him not be bored. If they say he’s not up to it, I bet he would be up to the challenge and probably able to catch up with no problems.
Otherwise, I think I agree with Susan. I hope you have some other school options around. Good luck, and enjoy your summer!

]]> By: MKMom http://queenofshakeshake.com/2009/07/02/how-do-you-say-%e2%80%9ctorture-fun-in-french/comment-page-1/#comment-12312 MKMom Tue, 07 Jul 2009 18:50:34 +0000 http://queenofshakeshake.com/?p=1808#comment-12312 I have a four year old daughter who is learning how to be a little more empathetic... trust me when I say that it isn't her best, most obvious innate quality but I do believe that it has to be nurtured and/or taught so I'm doing my best to work on it! Part of the reason I feel so strongly about having her think of others is because I am SO saddened when I read stories like Payton's. It makes me so sad that he is having a tough time right now and I just hope that there are some wonderful kids out there (other than the little SHITS who are teasing him) that can slow down and take the time to learn about his interests and befriend him. Hugs to you for doing all that you are doing to find ways to help him work through everything... I think he will find his way!! I have a four year old daughter who is learning how to be a little more empathetic… trust me when I say that it isn’t her best, most obvious innate quality but I do believe that it has to be nurtured and/or taught so I’m doing my best to work on it! Part of the reason I feel so strongly about having her think of others is because I am SO saddened when I read stories like Payton’s. It makes me so sad that he is having a tough time right now and I just hope that there are some wonderful kids out there (other than the little SHITS who are teasing him) that can slow down and take the time to learn about his interests and befriend him. Hugs to you for doing all that you are doing to find ways to help him work through everything… I think he will find his way!!

]]> By: susan http://queenofshakeshake.com/2009/07/02/how-do-you-say-%e2%80%9ctorture-fun-in-french/comment-page-1/#comment-12295 susan Sat, 04 Jul 2009 05:03:02 +0000 http://queenofshakeshake.com/?p=1808#comment-12295 Please dont send him back to that school.we switched our daughter out of a school due to constant bullying and it changed her life for ever for the better. she is now 20 and still remembers the lack of protection from teachers and how painful it was for her in her old school.spend some time this summer and look for a sensitive ,small ,child centered program with like population.I remember being worried that what if when my daughter went to the new school and if it would happen again.thankfuly the school we chose was so aware of the damage bullying can do and how it interfered with learning that the kids that EVEN thought of bullying were kicked out! too indulgent? you bet,and it was the most healing enviroment youd ever want for a kid.those kids wont give your son a fresh start but a new school will. good luck you sound like an incredibly loving mother. Please dont send him back to that school.we switched our daughter out of a school due to constant bullying and it changed her life for ever for the better. she is now 20 and still remembers the lack of protection from teachers and how painful it was for her in her old school.spend some time this summer and look for a sensitive ,small ,child centered program with like population.I remember being worried that what if when my daughter went to the new school and if it would happen again.thankfuly the school we chose was so aware of the damage bullying can do and how it interfered with learning that the kids that EVEN thought of bullying were kicked out! too indulgent? you bet,and it was the most healing enviroment youd ever want for a kid.those kids wont give your son a fresh start but a new school will. good luck you sound like an incredibly loving mother.

]]> By: Rachael http://queenofshakeshake.com/2009/07/02/how-do-you-say-%e2%80%9ctorture-fun-in-french/comment-page-1/#comment-12294 Rachael Fri, 03 Jul 2009 15:58:42 +0000 http://queenofshakeshake.com/?p=1808#comment-12294 Payton is just so smart. I would love to hang out with him. It sucks that the other kids are mean to him and that the school is not doing anything about it. It really does. It's unfair, and it's teaching those kids terrible lessons about the way they treat other people. I can't imagine how hard it must be. Enjoy him this summer. Payton is just so smart. I would love to hang out with him. It sucks that the other kids are mean to him and that the school is not doing anything about it. It really does. It’s unfair, and it’s teaching those kids terrible lessons about the way they treat other people. I can’t imagine how hard it must be. Enjoy him this summer.

]]> By: joeinvegas http://queenofshakeshake.com/2009/07/02/how-do-you-say-%e2%80%9ctorture-fun-in-french/comment-page-1/#comment-12293 joeinvegas Fri, 03 Jul 2009 00:09:10 +0000 http://queenofshakeshake.com/?p=1808#comment-12293 Amusement de torture pour le famille entier ! » Amusement de torture pour le famille entier ! »

]]> By: Sarah @ Ordinary Days http://queenofshakeshake.com/2009/07/02/how-do-you-say-%e2%80%9ctorture-fun-in-french/comment-page-1/#comment-12292 Sarah @ Ordinary Days Thu, 02 Jul 2009 20:19:12 +0000 http://queenofshakeshake.com/?p=1808#comment-12292 You're a strong mom and I think you are totally right to follow your gut on this. Hang in there! You’re a strong mom and I think you are totally right to follow your gut on this. Hang in there!

]]> By: Roshni http://queenofshakeshake.com/2009/07/02/how-do-you-say-%e2%80%9ctorture-fun-in-french/comment-page-1/#comment-12291 Roshni Thu, 02 Jul 2009 19:44:18 +0000 http://queenofshakeshake.com/?p=1808#comment-12291 don't worry about why he didn't tell you..sometimes when you're really hurting its just easier to tell an objective listener rather than one of your own who you know will hurt even more. Maybe that way, you are not wasting money coz this stuff needs to come out even if you are hearing it indirectly. I'm sorry. Kids are really cruel, but then so are a lot of adults...just in a more refined, inconspicuous way. don’t worry about why he didn’t tell you..sometimes when you’re really hurting its just easier to tell an objective listener rather than one of your own who you know will hurt even more. Maybe that way, you are not wasting money coz this stuff needs to come out even if you are hearing it indirectly.
I’m sorry. Kids are really cruel, but then so are a lot of adults…just in a more refined, inconspicuous way.

]]> By: juliet http://queenofshakeshake.com/2009/07/02/how-do-you-say-%e2%80%9ctorture-fun-in-french/comment-page-1/#comment-12290 juliet Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:07:03 +0000 http://queenofshakeshake.com/?p=1808#comment-12290 Hmmmm..interesting.... http://radicalsahm.blogspot.com/2009/06/sobriety.html Hmmmm..interesting….

http://radicalsahm.blogspot.com/2009/06/sobriety.html

]]> By: MommyTime http://queenofshakeshake.com/2009/07/02/how-do-you-say-%e2%80%9ctorture-fun-in-french/comment-page-1/#comment-12289 MommyTime Thu, 02 Jul 2009 16:28:43 +0000 http://queenofshakeshake.com/?p=1808#comment-12289 My kids are too young for this yet, but this kind of taunting and trauma is precisely what I dread. I have no answers, only sympathy. But I do not think you should beat yourself up about this: all you can do is move on from here. He knows that you care A LOT; he knows that you are trying to help. Perhaps you are right that he needs a break from therapy, especially if he thinks he's doing all the things the therapist is staying he should do, which it seems to my not-a-therapy-professional self might inadvertently end up blaming the victim. Go with your gut. You will find your way through this. Together. My kids are too young for this yet, but this kind of taunting and trauma is precisely what I dread. I have no answers, only sympathy. But I do not think you should beat yourself up about this: all you can do is move on from here. He knows that you care A LOT; he knows that you are trying to help. Perhaps you are right that he needs a break from therapy, especially if he thinks he’s doing all the things the therapist is staying he should do, which it seems to my not-a-therapy-professional self might inadvertently end up blaming the victim. Go with your gut. You will find your way through this. Together.

]]> By: Kay http://queenofshakeshake.com/2009/07/02/how-do-you-say-%e2%80%9ctorture-fun-in-french/comment-page-1/#comment-12288 Kay Thu, 02 Jul 2009 14:58:48 +0000 http://queenofshakeshake.com/?p=1808#comment-12288 I'd run with the fact that he seems to do well with older kids. My son (and myself at that age too) just cannot get along with kids his own age well. He's at a different level than they are, and they resent it, so it resorts to fighting. He's the biggest, so it doesn't usually lead to teasing. But when I started making an effort to introduce him to kids a few years older than him, the difference was amazing. Once he was able to develop his social skills with the older kids, he started doing a little better with kids his own age, almost like he learned patience for their immaturity. Now, he's almost 15, and those friends are 17, 18 years old - so we ARE struggling with that. But he has friends - and that's what's important to me. I’d run with the fact that he seems to do well with older kids. My son (and myself at that age too) just cannot get along with kids his own age well. He’s at a different level than they are, and they resent it, so it resorts to fighting. He’s the biggest, so it doesn’t usually lead to teasing. But when I started making an effort to introduce him to kids a few years older than him, the difference was amazing. Once he was able to develop his social skills with the older kids, he started doing a little better with kids his own age, almost like he learned patience for their immaturity.
Now, he’s almost 15, and those friends are 17, 18 years old – so we ARE struggling with that. But he has friends – and that’s what’s important to me.

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