Comments on: Confession Time. Please Prepare Yourself for Anti-Climatic Drama

By: thatgirlblogs

thatgirlblogs — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 01:37:17 +0000

same boat/I’m in it.

By: anymommy

anymommy — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 05:18:42 +0000

Great post. It made me laugh (gently, with you) and think. Part of me thinks all kids are weird. All people are weird. Part of me understands exactly what you mean, how some people, even young children, seem to intuitively understand what charms people, attracts them, makes them listen and some people don’t get it, put people off without knowing it. It’s a huge gift to relate to people easily and naturally – or even just blend in sometimes. Of course, there are tons of other gifts. I know you know that. Like I said, I loved the post, I’m just thinking out loud in response.
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By: Loralee

Loralee — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 05:07:14 +0000

Awe, shucks sweetie…this isn’t abnormal. I think it’s human.

My son is very like me and I cringe A LOT at him because well…I know how difficult it can be having that personality and I don’t want that for him.
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By: Al_Pal

Al_Pal — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 23:34:00 +0000

Maybe start with a clip-in streak of pink hair? ;p Good luck. Great post. .-= Al_Pal´s last blog ..My new creative outlet: Bread Puddings! =-.

By: Robin ~ PENSIEVE

Robin ~ PENSIEVE — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 22:26:53 +0000

You’ve got a picture of a decapitated naked Barbie doll marinating in a martini and you’re concerned about upping your weirdness? Sweetie, I don’t think you need to define normal but you might take a look at weird.

Oh, how I kid…kindasorta.

Sometimes I don’t think there really are answers to the questions we (as moms) ask, some of the hard questions. But we ask ‘em and talk ‘em through and listen to our friends and at the end of the day, remember “right foot, left foot” and move on.

I feel for you; you’re being painfully honest. I admire that.
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By: rachel-asouthernfairytale

rachel-asouthernfairytale — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 22:00:30 +0000

Holy long comments.

Heather, this might possibly, be one of my favorite posts you’ve ever written. I think it is infinitely telling, passionate and true.

I love your heart, your honesty and your heart (yes, again)

Thank you for sharing this. For having the cajones to write this. Thank you.
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By: mom, again

mom, again — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 05:24:16 +0000

you don’t need to be weird, but it wouldn’t hurt to have a few weird friends. Do you know anyone in the SCA? Comic book collectors? Role-playing gamers? Somebody at the museum he was volunteering at?

It doesn’t have to be a weirdness he has an interest in. Just an interest that somebody takes to extremes. Do you do any craft, like knitting or the scrapbooking stuff? Do you know anyone that is over the top about it? Hang out with them.

I don’t even know: Do you have a hobby? Besides the drinking I mean. If you ever wanted to have a hobby, nows the time to make time for it, and get weird about it.

Having a couple of weird friends would both show him how accpeting you really are, it’s not just because your his mom, but because you like weird people generally. Plus, role models. A friend of mine was much more like my daughter as a teen than I ever was, so, she could not only sorta explain my kid to me, but she could explain the world to my kid in a way that made more sense to her.

By: Scott

Scott — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 15:00:02 +0000

I was floored by your revelation, it’s still hard for me to fathom. A wife who gives blowjobs? You must be lying.

But seriously, being a kid who does some weird things at times is difficult for everyone. No matter what, unfortunetly, integrating with others who are trying to ‘be normal’ there isn’t anything you can do to change their perception of his actions. The only thing you can do that will make a difference to anyone is let him know that you accept him and love him, no matter what. That really is the only action that will make any difference, and it is for the one person who really needs it. And I’m sure you are already doing it.
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By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 11:10:55 +0000

Ladies, you know I definitely question the definition of normal. I also agree with your sentiments of embracing who you are, letting your child be himself, etc. etc. I don’t think I could turn Payton into a follower even if I wanted to.

However. (Gesh, am I really about to put a “but” into embracing your child like he is? Yes, I am.) But, as pretty as those sentiments sound on paper and in our mind, there’s the outside world too and we all must fit into society to a certain degree. The balance is to learn to do so without losing ourselves. I guess that’s the gist of this post, now that I think about it.

When I say socially rejected, I don’t mean just making friends. Cori has an excellent point about having the same friends since 4th grade. Who does? For most kids, social rejection would mean how they are making friends, but Payton isn’t most kids. He wants nothing more than to teach the world about the importance of our oceans. Sometimes when he is teaching, I see the weird things he does and how the people react – let me tell you, it inhibits his ability to get his message across to them.